resources

Book Recommendations & Links

BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS


Addiction

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S


Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Patrick Carnes PhD


For Love and Money; Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal In Relationships, Debra L. Kaplan MBA, MA


Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts, Stefanie Carnes, PhD, Mari A. Lee, LMFT & Anthony D. Rodriguez, LCSW


Anxiety

From Panic to Power: Proven Techniques to Calm Your Anxieties, Conquer Your Fears, and Put You in Control of Your Life, Lucinda Bassett



Co-Dependency

The Betrayal Bond, Patrick Carnes, PH.D


Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives, Pia Mellody


Individual Growth

Breaking the Chain of Low Self Esteem, Marilyn Sorenson


Change your Brain Change Your Life, Daniel Amen


Developing a Secure Self, April Steele


Getting Past Your Past, Francine Shapiro


Getting Love Right: Learning the Choices of Healthy Intimacy, Terence Gorski


I Thought it was Just Me; But it Isn’t, Brene Brown


People Skills, Robert Bolton PhD


The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown


Couples

Love Sense, Sue Johnson


Hold Me Tight, Sue Johnson


The Intimacy Factor, Pia Mellody


Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, David Schmarch PhD.


The Relationship Cure, John Gotten PhD. and Jean DeClaire


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver


Grief

Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief, P. Boss


Good Grief, Granger Westberg


How to go on Living When Someone you Love Dies, Therese A. Rando, PhD


Understanding Grief: Helping Yourself Heal, Alan D. Wolfelt


Infidelity/Affair Recovery

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair, Linda MacDonald


The Aftermath of Betrayal, Michelle D. Mays, LPC, CSAT-S


Mending a Shattered Heart: a guide for partners of sex addicts, Stephanie Carnes, PhD


Trauma and Sexual Abuse

The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD


Outgrowing the Pain, Eliana Gil PhD


Survivors and Partners: Healing the Relationships of Sexual Abuse Survivors, Paul A. Hansen


Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, Peter Levine


Wounded Heart; Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, Dan Allender


Workbooks

Boundaries, Henry Cloud & John Townsend


The Self-Esteem Workbook, G Sch

An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples, V Kallos-Lilly and J. Fitzgerald



LINKS TO ARTICLES & VIDEO CLIPS


What teenagers are learning from Online Porn

http://cirrus.mail-list.com/professionals/03433200.html


Dear anyone who thinks Sex Addiction doesn't exist

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dear-anyone-who-thinks-sex-addiction-doesnt-exist_us_59ff5720e4b0d467d4c2261c


Studies and reviews demonstrating parallels between compulsive sexual behavior and the addiction model

http://cirrus.mail-list.com/professionals/14390995.html


Gail Dines, free resource for parents on how to educate children
about pornography

http://cirrus.mail-list.com/professionals/33507504.html